Contact with me usually begins with someone asking for the most basic of information:
Before you contact me, read this page, and you will find that it answers many of the questions you may have about me...
These are some other frequently asked questions - perhaps yours are here:
Q I have never seen a Domme before, and I don't know much about this... is that ok?
A I see many people who are new to dominance and submission. I suggest that you utilize the resource before you - the Web. Start with the links here - click and learn so that you can know what you would like to try. It will enhance your experience. But yes, I can introduce you to many new things at a pace that's suitable for you.
Q What exactly would you do to me if I had a session with you?
A. Each session is different and individual. I do not do one-size-fits-all dominance. After our initial contact I will think about the information that you have given me. When you arrive for your session, I will get a very visceral response to you, and right away I will begin to plan what kinds of things I might do with you. You and I will negotiate the session so that stated boundaries are respected. I play with safewords, so that if something becomes too intense for you, there is a way for you to communicate with me about it. However, it is impossible to tell someone exactly what I would do with them after five minutes of phone conversation or one email!
Q Are you like an escort?
A. No, I am most definitely not an escort. I have no quarrel with women who choose to do that type of thing, but it is not what I am providing. If that's the type of experience you're seeking, you must look elsewhere...
Q Do you do extended sessions?
A My policy is this: For your first visit, I will book one hour only. We don't know what kind of chemistry we are going to have together, and I am unwilling to commit more than an hour of my time to someone who may not be at all to my taste! After that, I am willing to book two- and occasionally three-hour sessions. Three hours is the maximum.
Q Do you do any kind of barter in exchange for sessions?
A. Once in a very great while... and only if you really have something I want. I have household slaves, so don't offer to cook dinner, do housework or yardwork, give massages, paint my toenails, or wash my panties. As far as I am concerned, getting to do those things for me IS a session!
Q Do you see couples/women?
A. I very much enjoy seeing couples, whether the woman is dominant or submissive.
I am not seeing single female clients at this time.
Q. Do you do extreme scenes? Do you do consensually non-consensual scenes?
A. I will do physically extreme scenes. I have to feel that you understand what you are asking for and I will not do anything that I think is going to damage you in a serious way. By damage, I don't mean scars on your skin - I am talking about injuring a bone or an organ. I will do consensually nonconsensual scenes - which means that you say something along the lines of "I want you to spank me until I cry and no matter what I say, don't stop." Again, I have to feel that you understand what you are asking for, and I will not do anything that I think might damage your body.
Q. Do you do outcall?
A. It's extremely rare for me to do an outcall. You would have to present a very compelling reason for me to come to you. Generally the only reason I will do this is if you are in a wheelchair or in some other way physically challenged.
Q.What kinds of sessions don't you do?
And I never, ever switch - so don't even ask!
More information about what I do not do...
Q. I am a male dominant, but I'd like to try a session with you where I get tied up/get flogged/whatever. I'm not very submissive in my behavior, though.
A. I will sometimes consider seeing a male dominant who wants to experience certain physical aspects of BDSM. Bear in mind, however, these important things:
Q. Do you have a second Mistress available? Do you have a female submissive who can be in a session with us?
A. No, I see my clients alone, and at this time I am not in contact with any other Mistresses with whom I feel I would be compatible in a session.
Q. I am a dominant male - do you have a female submissive I could do a session with alone?
A. No, I don't know any professional submissives who are willing to see male dominants.
Q Can you teach me how to do BDSM?
A. Definitely! I give workshops on a variety of BDSM/dominance techniques all over the country and I can teach you either with or without a partner. There is a fee for my time - I negotiate it on a case-by-case basis.
Q. I am a woman - can you teach me how to be a Professional Dominatrix? Or, I want to be a professional Dom/sub - can I work for you? Or, Can I rent your dungeon to do professional dominance?
A. I get about three emails/phone calls a week asking me these types of questions.
Here is the short answer: No.
The longer answer: I do support other dominant women and other professional Mistresses. I know there are plenty of male submissives to go around - there are certainly far more than I myself will ever be able to have sessions with.
That being said, however, I cannot teach another woman how to go about setting up business as a Professional Dominatrix. If I did, and she did something illegal or injured someone, it's possible that I might be legally liable in some way for that. Not a risk I am willing to take. For the same reason, I cannot rent out my dungeon for professional dominance.
I cannot employ, even as a subcontractor, another person. Again, I could be held legally responsible for their behavior, and I will not place myself in such a situation.
I have discussed these issues with my attorney on many occasions, and she has advised me that these things are simply a bad idea. I wish we lived in a world where I did not have to concern myself with such things, but we don't.
Good Luck to you...
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