What I will NOT do in my sessions:
There are a couple of categories of things I won't do.
Number one: Things I do not do because I think they are not safe
I don't do strangulation or choking scenes. This is extremely dangerous. I will do very mild forms of breath control play, like putting my hand over your nose and mouth for a few seconds, but that's all.
I will do long bondage scenes under some circumstances, but I will not do a session where I tie someone up and leave them alone for long periods. This is a very unsafe thing to do. Never, ever put someone in serious bondage and then leave someone alone!
I will not do scat/brown showers, both because its not a turn-on for me, and because there are also some very real health risks with this kind of play. Golden showers are completely different and I love doing them.
I do suspension, but here is a picture of what I mean when I say that:
This picture is a lovely example of Japanses-style suspension bondage.
What I don't do: I see lots of pictures on the web of people of people pulled off the floor by ropes tied around their wrists. NEVER DO THAT! Its extremely unsafe! There are lots of tiny little bones in your wrists, and they are relatively fragile. They are not well-equipped to take the pressure of your entire body weight. A person hanging by their wrists stands an excellent chance of fracturing one of the tiny bones. And if those bones fracture or break, they are so small, there is no way to set them effectively. So they will just heal however they do, and you may have a permanent impairment to your hand. Like, your fingers don't work right ever again. Also, you are likely to sustain nerve damage if you hang from your wrists, which is sometimes temporary, lasting a few weeks to a few months, and sometimes permanent.
Even "suspension cuffs" are a risky propsition. Most of them require the person in them to hang on to a strap or a bar to help support their weight, which is okay for a minute or two. (That's how most of the photos you see of this are done. Pull person up, snap photo, take person down.) But think about it, can you you really hold up your own body weight by your hands for more than a few minutes at best? After that it's the same situation as above. So, suspension bondage can be done in all kinds of positions, but its a full-body affair, and it takes a good half hour to an hour to do, depending on the person. Talk to me about this if it's something you wish to experience.
Number two: Things I do not do because they don't turn me on
I do not do adult infantilism - it is simply not a fetish of mine. I have nothing to offer to this type of scene.
I enjoy incorporating mild cross-dressing into a session. If you are a man who likes to be made to wear a pair of panties, or stockings and a garter belt, because it's sexy and taboo, that's fine.
I support all facets of gender expression. If you wish to dress in special clothes for our session, that's also fine with me. But I have no wardrobe for this, so you will have to bring your own clothing, etc.
However, I do not do intensive crossdressing/complete physical transformations, or intense "feminization" training and behavior modification sessions. I cannot " train" someone to be a woman - I have neither the desire nor the skills.
Other stuff...
I do not do anal fisting for several reasons, one of which is that I am untrained in this and it's a scene which requires some skill and practice to do safely. If you get even a small tear in the lining of the anal wall, and feces gets into that tear, you can get peritonitis, which is fatal.
The other sad fact is that any kind of anal penetration is legally considered to be "sex." If you pay me to penetrate your ass, that's prostitution, which is, of course, illegal for us both. Therefore, on the advice of my attorney, I don't do this. I wish that I could, and I know many of you would like me to. I consider it an an outrage that my private sexual behavior is controlled in this way, and I encourage you to write your political representative and tell them to decriminalize private, consensual, adult behavior. And send a donation to this group:
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)
A national advocacy and lobbying organization working for the repeal of all statutes
that restrict private sexual expression among consenting adults. |
